Comments on: What Works: Never Should

By: Catherine

Catherine — Sun, 23 Aug 2009 02:46:46 +0000

Great article, Phil. I recently discovered RET this past spring, and became so much more conscious of how much I’d been ’shoulding’ myself. The Deuteronomy passage shows me how important it is to be a non-anxious presence in our own lives, and how ’shoulding’ is the polar opposite of this kind of presence. Thanks!

By: Mark

Mark — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 03:43:20 +0000

Fantastic reflection and one I will need to print out and reread a bunch of times. Thank you!

By: Max Lindenman

Max Lindenman — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 16:51:52 +0000

I feel you, buddy. Remember the R. Lee Ermey character from Full Metal Jacket? He’s pretty much what my superego would look like, were it a full person.

By: anhela

anhela — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 02:02:14 +0000

Thanks for your thoughtful article. I related to everything you wrote. You were really expressive…

By: nora

nora — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 15:12:25 +0000

A few years ago I was going through a rough patch at work, I have a great job that I love but it does come with some built in irritations. I was complaining to family and friends pretty frequently and starting to feel a little trapped when someone I just met asked what I did for a living. I told her and she responded enthusiastically “What a GREAT job, you must love it!” ‘Well, yeah, yeah I do’ I replied, a little disoriented. It took someone who didn’t know me at all to remind me I chose this and continue to choose this because its something I love. I still get irritated but I try to say more often–I GET to do this–not I have to.