Comments on: What does the Church Teach about Oral Sex? http://www.bustedhalo.com/features/what-does-the-church-teach-about-oral-sex/ an online magazine for spiritual seekers. Fri, 20 Nov 2009 20:54:15 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Jim Irving http://www.bustedhalo.com/features/what-does-the-church-teach-about-oral-sex/#comment-6690 Jim Irving Mon, 09 Nov 2009 03:17:05 +0000 http://www.bustedhalo.com/?p=6529#comment-6690 It seems a little restrictive if the male, despite using medicine to overcome impotency, that a married couple's days of intimacy are over because male penetration is not possible and oral sex is the only way to achieve a climax for both of the couples. But, it appears that if the male ejaculates while trying to have sex it is all right to perform oral sex on the spouse. Am I missing something? It seems a little restrictive if the male, despite using medicine to overcome impotency, that a married couple’s days of intimacy are over because male penetration is not possible and oral sex is the only way to achieve a climax for both of the couples. But, it appears that if the male ejaculates while trying to have sex it is all right to perform oral sex on the spouse. Am I missing something?

]]> By: Mike Hayes http://www.bustedhalo.com/features/what-does-the-church-teach-about-oral-sex/#comment-6327 Mike Hayes Tue, 13 Oct 2009 02:59:07 +0000 http://www.bustedhalo.com/?p=6529#comment-6327 Tom and Gerardo-- Tom the answer is no here. There is the unitive aspect of sex that needs to be part of this as we said above: "Oral sex or stimulation can never be used as a replacement for sexual intercourse. Stimulation is another matter. And Gerardo, we're not specifically talking about addiction here, but you make a good point, but there's lots to consider. See our series "Skin Deep" at http://www.bustedhalo.com/features/skin-deep-part-1/ Tom and Gerardo–

Tom the answer is no here. There is the unitive aspect of sex that needs to be part of this as we said above: “Oral sex or stimulation can never be used as a replacement for sexual intercourse. Stimulation is another matter.

And Gerardo, we’re not specifically talking about addiction here, but you make a good point, but there’s lots to consider. See our series “Skin Deep” at http://www.bustedhalo.com/features/skin-deep-part-1/

]]> By: Gerardo http://www.bustedhalo.com/features/what-does-the-church-teach-about-oral-sex/#comment-6319 Gerardo Mon, 12 Oct 2009 04:44:28 +0000 http://www.bustedhalo.com/?p=6529#comment-6319 Sorry. Isn't there a source where the Church says what is a sexual perversion and what isn't?. Because any perversion is bad (is demonic in its origin). I think it would be important for the Church to clearly define this. Officialy. (Sorry for not putting all my comments in one). Sorry. Isn’t there a source where the Church says what is a sexual perversion and what isn’t?. Because any perversion is bad (is demonic in its origin). I think it would be important for the Church to clearly define this. Officialy. (Sorry for not putting all my comments in one).

]]> By: Gerardo http://www.bustedhalo.com/features/what-does-the-church-teach-about-oral-sex/#comment-6318 Gerardo Mon, 12 Oct 2009 04:42:03 +0000 http://www.bustedhalo.com/?p=6529#comment-6318 I think if it is OK to perform oral sex, it should be discontinued if it is becoming a vice for anyone of the couple. I think if it is OK to perform oral sex, it should be discontinued if it is becoming a vice for anyone of the couple.

]]> By: Gerardo http://www.bustedhalo.com/features/what-does-the-church-teach-about-oral-sex/#comment-6317 Gerardo Mon, 12 Oct 2009 04:40:19 +0000 http://www.bustedhalo.com/?p=6529#comment-6317 What about the mental attachment that a person can have after giving oral sex. Example, become mentally obsessed with your wife genitals? (I think this should be also considered, because it can be enslaving). Also women can get obsessed with the man's genitals. There is a lot of evidence of that (sex addicts, etc.). What about the mental attachment that a person can have after giving oral sex. Example, become mentally obsessed with your wife genitals? (I think this should be also considered, because it can be enslaving). Also women can get obsessed with the man’s genitals. There is a lot of evidence of that (sex addicts, etc.).

]]> By: Tom http://www.bustedhalo.com/features/what-does-the-church-teach-about-oral-sex/#comment-5818 Tom Sat, 22 Aug 2009 19:00:32 +0000 http://www.bustedhalo.com/?p=6529#comment-5818 My wife is not Catholic and had her tubes tied when she was in her early twenties. We had all the children she could comfortably raise and decided she did not want to have any more. So, since it is impossible for her to have any more children (and is now in her 60's), does that mean that any kind of sexual climax is OK for me, including oral sex since procreation is not humanly possible in our situation? My wife is not Catholic and had her tubes tied when she was in her early twenties. We had all the children she could comfortably raise and decided she did not want to have any more. So, since it is impossible for her to have any more children (and is now in her 60’s), does that mean that any kind of sexual climax is OK for me, including oral sex since procreation is not humanly possible in our situation?

]]> By: Garth http://www.bustedhalo.com/features/what-does-the-church-teach-about-oral-sex/#comment-4022 Garth Sun, 14 Jun 2009 05:55:42 +0000 http://www.bustedhalo.com/?p=6529#comment-4022 Great article Mike. Marc to respnd to your comments. NFP is not preventing creation. All necessary elements are present God can still act to create a human soul even when a man and woman are sure that they are not fertile at the time of intercourse. Many will attest that he He does still create even when couples are using NFP methods that are 98 - 99% effective in avoiding pregnancy. Think of it this way if God intended a woman to conceive everytime a husband and wife have sex then why didn't He make woman fertile all the time as men are? It is because He wanted husbands and wives to enjoy the unitive nature of the marital embrace even when a child is not the product. NFP allows the option to avoid pregnancy when we discern, through prayer, that having a child at that particular time would not be prudent, but is still open to creation. Great article Mike. Marc to respnd to your comments. NFP is not preventing creation. All necessary elements are present God can still act to create a human soul even when a man and woman are sure that they are not fertile at the time of intercourse. Many will attest that he He does still create even when couples are using NFP methods that are 98 – 99% effective in avoiding pregnancy. Think of it this way if God intended a woman to conceive everytime a husband and wife have sex then why didn’t He make woman fertile all the time as men are? It is because He wanted husbands and wives to enjoy the unitive nature of the marital embrace even when a child is not the product. NFP allows the option to avoid pregnancy when we discern, through prayer, that having a child at that particular time would not be prudent, but is still open to creation.

]]> By: Charles http://www.bustedhalo.com/features/what-does-the-church-teach-about-oral-sex/#comment-1437 Charles Mon, 19 Jan 2009 19:13:11 +0000 http://www.bustedhalo.com/?p=6529#comment-1437 But what is wrong with bringing your wife to orgasm if we do not have intercourse? No fertility is lost. Pleasure cannot in itself be evil. This is truer when is oral sex is an expression of affection and passionate devotion. But what is wrong with bringing your wife to orgasm if we do not have intercourse? No fertility is lost. Pleasure cannot in itself be evil. This is truer when is oral sex is an expression of affection and passionate devotion.

]]> By: Fred http://www.bustedhalo.com/features/what-does-the-church-teach-about-oral-sex/#comment-1330 Fred Sun, 11 Jan 2009 22:37:03 +0000 http://www.bustedhalo.com/?p=6529#comment-1330 Very informative article, but seems to assume that procreation is always possible. What if the wife is unable to conceive or, as happens, is unable to have intercourse? Why should lovemaking that leads to ejaculation in these circumstances be sinful? Very informative article, but seems to assume that procreation is always possible. What if the wife is unable to conceive or, as happens, is unable to have intercourse? Why should lovemaking that leads to ejaculation in these circumstances be sinful?

]]> By: Christine B. Whelan http://www.bustedhalo.com/features/what-does-the-church-teach-about-oral-sex/#comment-1322 Christine B. Whelan Sat, 10 Jan 2009 20:46:03 +0000 http://www.bustedhalo.com/?p=6529#comment-1322 Excellent piece, Mike! Something that all readers of my Pure Sex, Pure Love column should consult as well... Excellent piece, Mike! Something that all readers of my Pure Sex, Pure Love column should consult as well…

]]> By: Marc http://www.bustedhalo.com/features/what-does-the-church-teach-about-oral-sex/#comment-1299 Marc Thu, 08 Jan 2009 07:08:41 +0000 http://www.bustedhalo.com/?p=6529#comment-1299 Yes...Nice Article Mike. I'm still not sure though why the church is so concerned with procreation. Would it be a sin (in the eyes of the church) for a married couple to never have kids? I think in oral sex (while neither supporting nor criticizing it), if a man climaxes outside of a woman, he neither provides opportunity for life nor kills any life. This seems to very closely related to the church's position on condoms. Are all married couples supposed to either have 10 kids or have sex twice in their lives? I guess that's where NFP comes in....but even that would be an action with the intention of preventing procreation! Let's be honest...I'm confused. Yes…Nice Article Mike. I’m still not sure though why the church is so concerned with procreation. Would it be a sin (in the eyes of the church) for a married couple to never have kids? I think in oral sex (while neither supporting nor criticizing it), if a man climaxes outside of a woman, he neither provides opportunity for life nor kills any life. This seems to very closely related to the church’s position on condoms. Are all married couples supposed to either have 10 kids or have sex twice in their lives? I guess that’s where NFP comes in….but even that would be an action with the intention of preventing procreation! Let’s be honest…I’m confused.

]]> By: Gideon http://www.bustedhalo.com/features/what-does-the-church-teach-about-oral-sex/#comment-1282 Gideon Wed, 07 Jan 2009 02:31:42 +0000 http://www.bustedhalo.com/?p=6529#comment-1282 Nice article, very informative. Nice article, very informative.

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