Comments on: Single for the Holidays http://www.bustedhalo.com/features/pure-sex-pure-love-82-single-for-the-holidays/ an online magazine for spiritual seekers. Fri, 20 Nov 2009 20:54:15 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Women http://www.bustedhalo.com/features/pure-sex-pure-love-82-single-for-the-holidays/#comment-2020 Women Sun, 15 Mar 2009 07:00:12 +0000 http://www.bustedhalo.com/?p=6089#comment-2020 Is there a way to become a content writer for the site? Is there a way to become a content writer for the site?

]]> By: Perpetually Single College Dude http://www.bustedhalo.com/features/pure-sex-pure-love-82-single-for-the-holidays/#comment-1218 Perpetually Single College Dude Mon, 29 Dec 2008 07:25:28 +0000 http://www.bustedhalo.com/?p=6089#comment-1218 Well I'm gay so it's a question I usually have to evade every Christmas from my very Catholic family....gah! Still, I find that during the holidays (at least for me) the main focus is spending time with family: remembering old times, listening to that crazy uncle's stories (I know we all have one in some incarnation or another haha), and eating good home-made food before parting off to college and/or the world of 9 to 5 offices again in Jan. In all the family craziness and joy, it reminds me that single or not, I know that we are not alone. And that's the message I feel our born Lord seeks to bring us every Christmas. Hope everyone had a Merry Christmas and Here's to a Happy Year! :-) Well I’m gay so it’s a question I usually have to evade every Christmas from my very Catholic family….gah!

Still, I find that during the holidays (at least for me) the main focus is spending time with family: remembering old times, listening to that crazy uncle’s stories (I know we all have one in some incarnation or another haha), and eating good home-made food before parting off to college and/or the world of 9 to 5 offices again in Jan.

In all the family craziness and joy, it reminds me that single or not, I know that we are not alone. And that’s the message I feel our born Lord seeks to bring us every Christmas.

Hope everyone had a Merry Christmas and Here’s to a Happy Year! :-)

]]> By: Kristan http://www.bustedhalo.com/features/pure-sex-pure-love-82-single-for-the-holidays/#comment-955 Kristan Thu, 18 Dec 2008 19:05:43 +0000 http://www.bustedhalo.com/?p=6089#comment-955 I have several replies: "Are you dating anyone?" "No" "oh, that's okay" "Yes, it is." Or "Why aren't you married?" "I'm 29; too young. Besides, I'm waiting for my friends' kids to get a bit older so I can have 10 flower girls and 10 ring bearers at my wedding." I have several replies:
“Are you dating anyone?”
“No”
“oh, that’s okay”
“Yes, it is.”

Or
“Why aren’t you married?”
“I’m 29; too young. Besides, I’m waiting for my friends’ kids to get a bit older so I can have 10 flower girls and 10 ring bearers at my wedding.”

]]> By: Canada joe http://www.bustedhalo.com/features/pure-sex-pure-love-82-single-for-the-holidays/#comment-928 Canada joe Wed, 17 Dec 2008 18:10:54 +0000 http://www.bustedhalo.com/?p=6089#comment-928 My wife once got this one while playing a family card game at the age of 34. "You don't want to be the one left holding that last card or you'll be the old maid." Then there was awkward silence for about 30 interminable seconds. I just remember on our wedding day she held that bouquet up like it was the Stanley Cup My wife once got this one while playing a family card game at the age of 34. “You don’t want to be the one left holding that last card or you’ll be the old maid.” Then there was awkward silence for about 30 interminable seconds.
I just remember on our wedding day she held that bouquet up like it was the Stanley Cup

]]> By: Vfig http://www.bustedhalo.com/features/pure-sex-pure-love-82-single-for-the-holidays/#comment-923 Vfig Wed, 17 Dec 2008 11:52:53 +0000 http://www.bustedhalo.com/?p=6089#comment-923 I used to get upset whenever relatives, particularly family matrons, used to ask about my single status. Now, though, I'm less defensive - for them, choices were limited and expectations were clear. Career - teacher, nurse, sec'y, other - for a few years, then marriage and kids. Weddings, babies and families are a great source of joy for everyone, so why wouldn't they want it for me too? If you have a full life of friends, spiritual and volunteer activities, they'll be happy for you too. I'll keep to the same response - I'm comfortable being single - thank you. I used to get upset whenever relatives, particularly family matrons, used to ask about my single status. Now, though, I’m less defensive – for them, choices were limited and expectations were clear. Career – teacher, nurse, sec’y, other – for a few years, then marriage and kids. Weddings, babies and families are a great source of joy for everyone, so why wouldn’t they want it for me too?

If you have a full life of friends, spiritual and volunteer activities, they’ll be happy for you too.

I’ll keep to the same response – I’m comfortable being single – thank you.

]]> By: Shea http://www.bustedhalo.com/features/pure-sex-pure-love-82-single-for-the-holidays/#comment-917 Shea Tue, 16 Dec 2008 22:14:59 +0000 http://www.bustedhalo.com/?p=6089#comment-917 I didn't get married until I was 41, so as you can imagine, I've heard them all. I think the worst was when my Mom started lowering my expectations for me. She'd mention an old friend that she believed was an unthinkable match in the past, and say, "You know, I wouldn't mind if you dated him." And of course my Dad telling me that I'm too independent, and that men don't like that. *sigh* Be sure to change who you are to please somebody else. *double sigh* I met a wonderful man who loves me for being exactly who I am, and oh look, no lowered expectations, and he's comforting knowing that if he wasn't there, I could take care of myself. Although I admit that after hearing the old statistic of being more likely to get hit by lightning than getting married after the age of 40, I do stay out of rainstorms. ;-) I didn’t get married until I was 41, so as you can imagine, I’ve heard them all. I think the worst was when my Mom started lowering my expectations for me. She’d mention an old friend that she believed was an unthinkable match in the past, and say, “You know, I wouldn’t mind if you dated him.” And of course my Dad telling me that I’m too independent, and that men don’t like that. *sigh* Be sure to change who you are to please somebody else. *double sigh* I met a wonderful man who loves me for being exactly who I am, and oh look, no lowered expectations, and he’s comforting knowing that if he wasn’t there, I could take care of myself.

Although I admit that after hearing the old statistic of being more likely to get hit by lightning than getting married after the age of 40, I do stay out of rainstorms. ;-)

]]> By: Anna http://www.bustedhalo.com/features/pure-sex-pure-love-82-single-for-the-holidays/#comment-909 Anna Mon, 15 Dec 2008 19:45:31 +0000 http://www.bustedhalo.com/?p=6089#comment-909 My extended family was doing a "Reply All" e-mail back and forth on who was bringing what for Thanksgiving dinner. My aunt listed the number of chairs needed per family. I was listed as "Anna- 1. How sad." I knew she was partly joking because she then listed her own single self as "even sadder," but it still smarted. Then another aunt replied back to the effect of, "Don't worry, Anna, you can at least enjoy the food." And this went out to about 20 different family members. My extended family was doing a “Reply All” e-mail back and forth on who was bringing what for Thanksgiving dinner. My aunt listed the number of chairs needed per family. I was listed as “Anna- 1. How sad.” I knew she was partly joking because she then listed her own single self as “even sadder,” but it still smarted. Then another aunt replied back to the effect of, “Don’t worry, Anna, you can at least enjoy the food.” And this went out to about 20 different family members.

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